Surviving Divorce as a Newly Single Mom

There are many divorced single moms in the world and many will have a lot of problems to think about. Problems are something that you will accept as part of life as a single mother, the trick is knowing how to deal with them. If you are not able to surround yourself with outlets then it can be very easy to let yourself feel overwhelmed by the pressure and this in turn could affect your child directly.

As a divorcee, you will be worrying about a lot of things. There is knowing how you are going to pay the next round of bills, how to pay for food all week, how to put clothes on your child’s back and also medical insurance an education costs. These are just the financial angles you have to worry about! It is very easy to see how the problems can mount up in the wake of a divorce because many things you may have taken for granted before will no longer be in place.

This article will take a look at the most common problems for divorced single mothers, how to start dealing with these problems and what is in place to help you if you start feeling the pressure a little too much. Never forget that your child is the most important thing in your life but you will need to make some time and space for yourself to work around many problems you may have.

Your biggest headache will always be money. I don’t promise you some magic pill to fix your financial problems. But there is always a way. As a single mother and ex divorcee, I know what it’s like to experience a divorce and the trauma afterwords. If you are divorced, you will need to handle a lot of extra things that will always require extra funds. My recommendation here is to write every thing down onto a piece of paper and then work out a budget. This will help you to make sure that you are not spending any extra money in areas that it could be saved. Talk to professional budgeting organizations for tips that can help you manage your money better.

Maker sure you are covered in terms of medical insurance. This is because the second thing you will probably worry about the most is your child’s safety and well being. If they need to go into hospital at very short notice and you do not have the insurance to cover the cost of a large operation then it could be the defining matter between life and death. You may not think insurance is necessary but it will take a near disaster to jump you into action, which could be easily avoided. There are some medical programs in the USA like medicaid that do help out lower income persons (health insurance is usually unaffordable by single moms). You could also look at some local non-profit health agencies for free medical checkups and whatnot for your child.

And finally, make sure that you are getting money from the other parent. Yes, there are deadbeat dads around, but you may need to involve the courts to extract money out of your ex if they are not contributing financially for their child. You are entitled to this and it should have been part of the divorce settlement. If it is not then take the civil route and contact the other parent of the child. If they reject you out of hand then you have a good case to take to either your lawyer or your local Child Support Agency. Both will act on your behalf to get you the financial assistance that you may have come to rely upon in the period before your divorce.

Divorced single moms do not have to have particularly bad lives. You can over power many problems just by using some basic logic and sense to help you through some rough patches as well as knowing your rights.

  • If you’re in an abusive relationship, the most important thing is to get out of it. There are many ways to do this, but the easiest is to hire a divorce attorney. They’ll be able to pursue child support for your child, and, if necessary, they can obtain a restraining order for your ex-husband.

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  • Ann Krause

    I am a single mother of three. It’s been over two years and my husband has still got things tied up in court with no divorce yet official. Without saying, my lawyers have a huge bill I owe, due mostly due to my husband’s delay tactics and failure to make decisions. My family have no more money to help. I’m afraid I will lose my children!
    I have a job and making as much as I can for a non-graduated high school student. I have suffered verbal abuse for most of my married life-18 years. The lawyer is pressing for a pay agreement to be signed.

    Help!